Happy Saturday everyone!
Sorry we haven't posted in a few days, things have been super hectic but I hope today's post is a good read for you. We've decided to go a little deeper with our topic today so here we go...
So I was watching TV the other day and came across an old episode of Greys Anatomy about addictions. During the voice over they talk about the high and rush we get with things we’re ‘addicted’ to. Now, I'm not about to start talking about drug addictions and shit, but the episode got me thinking a lot about how people tend to hold on to things (relationships) that they know are hurting them but just won't let them go.
We’ve all seen it or perhaps have had our own share of dealings with this feeling. We’re so caught up in moments that we forget to look at the bigger picture. Think of it this way, it’s like when you go and watch a movie but there are a few scenes that made you laugh or that you thought were cute, but the entire concept and story line is wrong, the actors suck, and it was too predictable. You aren’t going to the say that it was a good movie. When people ask you’ll say the movie was crap, and that you don’t think anyone should waste their money going to see it.
Now, back to my initial thoughts and what inspired this entry. Have you ever watched your bestfriend’s boyfriend constantly treat her like crap and wonder why she keeps him around or why perhaps we spend our time chasing guys who really aren’t worth it? We get a few good dates, long conversations on the phone, some cute texts, and steamy backseat make-out and we think this guy has it all but realistically the dates well there’s only been a few, the long conversations on the phone only happen when YOU call him and he decides to pick up, the cute texts – drunk texts, and the make-outs well they only happen when you’ve seen him which ties back to the few good dates. So why do we stick around? It’s because we love the high, we love the potential, we love the feeling we get and we hold on to these few moments and we don’t admit that the relationship is crap just like that horrible movie you don’t think anyone should watch!
So what happens when we’ve finally realized that this guy isn’t right for us? We do another stupid thing, we start to come up with excuses for them. It’s fucked! Are we really just wired so wrong that most of us can’t see that he’s just a dick and not that into us. This goes for guys as well. If she's a high maintenance, unappreciative, whiny bitch who doesn't trust you and is constantly breathing down your neck who cares how hot she is, do you really need the headache? Peace the fuck out of there ASAP and find yourself somebody a little more sane. We're not all as fucked up as you claim your ex was.
But back to my point, people are born into relationships. It’s our relationships that make us human. They let us feel emotions. They make us happy, and they also make us what to curl up into to a ball and cry but we hold on to the ones that are worth it with the people we believe really make a difference in our lives. We just have to be able to figure out which ones ARE worth it.
So if you’re stuck sitting through a shitty movie that you know is going to want to make you poke your eyes out after you’ve already sat through it, walk out and maybe go see another one worth your time. You can’t get you’re money back once you’ve already sat through it. Kick the habit of putting up with anything less than you deserve. In other words, (and excuse my French) wake the fuck up and cut off the asshole you’ve been infatuated over the last month because the longer you put yourself through it the harder it’ll be to let it go kind of like the whole addiction thing.
This is a good entry but it makes me laugh because at the end of the day, no matter how hard you girls try to change your method of thinking it's not gonna happen. Before you all run rampid, let me be the first to applaud the OP's intentions, but face it; a female runs predominantly on emotion, positive or negative, and as stated above, as long as you women receive some form of emotional stimulus, you'll keep going back. Then there's the "nice guy" topic. Girls lemme ask you a question; can a guy be too nice? If yes, which it almost always is, think about why you answered yes, and you'll have discovered the answer as to why you're attracted to assholes! :) It's not hard people
ReplyDeleteThanks for the comment. You do raise a point, however; there's a big difference between a nice guy being TOO nice (which we'll soon discuss) and then a complete asshole & then you have the guys who play nice and deserve an Oscar for such a great and convincing performance. Some people are bitches/assholes to certain people and with others they are the complete opposite so it does become hard to tell sometimes. It's the obvious ones that we seem to become so intrigued and determined to fix and make work and those are the ones we need to just leave alone.
ReplyDeleteBoth awesome points, the way I see it...I give to the one I like or passes lol I give what i see fit for the moment if with time I feel okay enough to give more, awesome possum. If this guy ends up being who I thought he was he'll (in his own way) give back if what he gives is not what I'm looking for well then let's not waste each other's time. In other words give without expecting them to give what you want, give because you want to and cause u can. Im not an asshole because I do not like that which you give, nor am I too nice because my behaviour is not enough game for you. Cut out the expectations and begin accepting. If you can't accept that which that person gives you....is that enough to give them a title? Please I've been called a bitch many times, does that actually make me one? (^_~) I guess it all goes back on what that person perceives lol
ReplyDeleteAll I can control is myself and all I know is what goes on in my lil head...no one is perfect...but there is someone out there who will be perfect for me...so figure out that which you want before you go looking for the unknown.